Demonising people for simply having an opinion does NOT do *anyone* any favours

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The level of intolerance displayed on the net has been staggering in the last few days. It seems that nobody is allowed to have an opinion – and if they dare express one, they are automatically labelled a “hater”.

I have made very clear that I support the decision Caitlyn Jenner felt she had to make and I have also recognised that said decision required a degree of bravery – I simply added that in my opinion the whole photo-shoot reeked of attention-seeking and that it all could have been handled in a more dignified manner. That is my opinion and I am entitled to it. Except I am not, apparently. Expressing it automatically labels me  a “bad person”, “unhappy”, “transphobe” and the likes, according to a bunch of strangers on Twitter. It is simply staggering that the people who clamour for tolerance often happen to be incredibly intolerant themselves. Harassing and bullying people does NOT do anyone any favours – when will people understand that?

I just read this about the whole Caitlyn Jenner issue and how people who criticize the way it was handled and refuse to see her as a “modern day saint” have been demonised –  it was so good I had to share it.
I urge everyone to read it http://blogs.spectator.co.uk/culturehousedaily/2015/06/call-me-caitlyn-or-else-the-rise-of-authoritarian-transgender-politics/

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44 thoughts on “Demonising people for simply having an opinion does NOT do *anyone* any favours

  1. The only problem is that people enjoy the fuss. They enjoy the gossip, rambling about others, making a fuss of anything that anyone says and claims. Come up with an opinionated answer, and if others won’t be able to combat your arguments, they will most likely judge you… haha

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    1. That’s actually very true: I am shocked by the number of people who, when faced with an actual thought-out argument just reply: “you’re just a hater”, or “you’re jealous”.
      Come on, if you are going to disagree with me, do so in a reasonable manner and have a proper argument as to why you are…

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  2. Exactly. Saying “you’re just a hater” is the most lazy, easy way out of the conversation. No arguments of their own, no thoughts whatsoever, just that funny attempt to have upper hand in the conversation.
    I love disagreeing, I love the discussion, always treating it as not to argue with other person, but opportunity to meet with other point of view and also defend yours – would be soo much more interesting if more people were making that effort

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    1. I am the same: I love a good debate, always have, so I really can’t stand people just closing the conversation with “hater” or “jealous” because it is lazy and it also shows that…it’s all they’ve got. You can disagree with me as much as you like as long as you come up with a valid argument, *that* I thoroughly enjoy

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  3. Excellent post. I’m a huge supporter of TG folks, but the attention seeking crap Jenner has been doing is BS. She’s rich, famous, and not, IMO, representative of the average TG person. I think she’s full of narcissistic shit. The media need to focus on the struggle the average, non-wealthy TG person faces. In short, my opinion is this: fuck the rich; fuck the famous, and focus on the reality of the average, poor, unknown person. Until that happens, i say, fuck the media and media whores like Jenner, who are so fucking rich, they’re fine no matter what the fuck they do. That is not normal nor representative of the real issues real people face, TG or not.

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    1. Yes, some of my transgendered friends have been pointing out these issues too. Nothing against Caitlyn Jenner, but acknowledging that her wealth & fame are going to make some aspects of transitioning easier for her.

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      1. Well, *exactly*! Thank you for saying it, because the way some people have received my opinion you would have thought I was a religious nut stuck in the dark ages.

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    1. Exactly. I have just been told on my other “Jenner” post that I’m jealous and unhappy and obviously have issues. Demonising me for having an opinion…. obviously proving that I was right to post this.

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      1. That’s quite a stretch to make that correlation. I’m sure that you are neither jealous nor unhappy, and probably don’t spend much time thinking about Jenner. It would appear that the social police have an agenda and are willing to shame people into silence in order to have their visions realized.

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  4. You’re right about “Tolerance.” It sounds like a polite way of discriminating, depending on what is deemed as preferable. The way I see it, it shouldn’t matter what opinion anyone has. Voicing out yours means you can think for yourself.

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      1. Hey 🙂 I don’t mind at all but you’re probably going to have to wait a few days for this. I’m not that great with challenges to be honest, but I’ll give it a go – you’ll just have to be indulgent when you read my efforts 😉

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  5. I think it’s funny when I listen to someone’s argument about things like this and I calmly reply with my opinion then I end up being the jerk. I mean, they asked my opinion and I answered but apparently they wanted a likeable response. They want others to hear their voice and be accepted by others. I mean, I heard what they said, I gave my opinion but I guess everyone has to agree to live happily.
    This Jenner thing is ridiculous. I support what Jenner did to be happy, I don’t support the attention grabbing. If it was left as Caitlyn finally coming to life, and didn’t have this lavish photoshoot with Vanity Fair, I would’ve been ok. Now, it’s just a circus the media and gossipers are all over. I don’t know. Priorities in the world today are starting to really turn into an Idiocracy.

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  6. This is a trend I’ve noticed the past many years in our new “politically correct” environment. The first time I remember it happening was with George W Bush during the ‘war on terrorism’. If you didn’t agree with him, you are supporting the terrorists … no possibility that we might disagree with him simply because we think he is wrong.
    Unfortunately this mentality has been growing.

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    1. Hasn’t it? PC is driving me mad, it really feels like we are not allowed to say anything anymore. I had an awful time yesterday with a *troll* who kept commenting on my earlier post about Caitlyn Jenner, who insisted I wrote it solely because “I’m unhappy, a hater, jealous, and I have a problem with strong women”. Apparently the troll could tell all this about me solely from looking at my blog. When challenged to explain “where” on my blog he or she could see all of those things, he or she refused to explain, just stating that it was evident all throughout the blog. I mean, come on!

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      1. Apparently if you don’t agree with the mainstream opinion (ie media hype), you’re a racist, hater, homophobe, terrorist, etc ….

        I don’t think there was any ambiguity in your post. You were very clear that what you disliked and found hugely distasteful was the HYPE … and quite frankly, that’s what I have an issue with too.

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      2. Thank you, I have found that most people are being perfectly reasonable about this but there will always be *some* who are narrow-minded and can’t accept the fact you may have an opinion. I have said it over and over again, I do NOT mind people disagreeing with me as long as they discuss intelligently and provide reasons for why they do so. What I really can’t abide is people resorting to personal attacks and shutting down the discussion with “hater, jealous, etc…”
        Again, thank you for reading and giving me your opinion – it’s much appreciated 🙂

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  7. George Eliot said that the responsibility of tolerance lies with those who have the wider vision. That’s you. To find out who rules over you, I say find out who you are AFRAID to criticize. [Your] haters [*are*] gonna hate. So what? Do your thing. I, for one, support it.

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      1. Actually, and quite appropriate to the conversation and post, George Eliot was a woman named Mary Ann Evans. She used the name George Eliot when she wrote. $Amen$ and praise be the TG folks who don’t make a bloody mockery of themselves because they’re rich and famous. In the Bible it says, “And Jesus said unto the trolls, you will dieth a thousand deaths for being trolls,” Mark, 45:89. 😀

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      2. I did not know that! Thank you, I really didn’t have a clue, so glad I learnt something tonight.
        As for the rest of your comment: hahaha – I’ve said it before and I probably will say it many more times, but you do crack me up! 😀

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  8. This is the unfortunate side effect of internet culture. Everyone needs to be tolerant, of even accepting with open arms. Except of course when you’re opinion does not align with theirs. This attitude seems extremely pervasive on Tumblr, I’ve found and it’s slowly taking hold elsewhere. I commend you on having an opinion and not caving under anonymous pressure.

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    1. Thank you, I’m not really the type to cave under pressure 😉
      I am not familiar with Tumblr but I do know that it’s becoming more and more difficult as a rule to express an opinion without getting your head bitten off – if your opinion dissents with the most “fashionable” views out there, that is.
      Thank you for reading and your comment – I really appreciate it 🙂

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  9. I absolutely support your right to your opinion, and whether or not I agree with it is immaterial. You are correct that too many people on the net seem to think that you must completely fall in line with them, or you are some kind of hater. We need reasoned and rational discourse, not name calling. So, please continue to offer your opinions.

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  10. There are people who actually are just haters, and I think there are people who simply enjoy muddying the waters by taking extreme positions because that’s how THEY get attention.

    I agree with you that the whole thing reeked of the tawdriest reality show.

    The fact of the matter is that our nation is teeming with transgender people weren’t and will never rich white celebrities.

    Many of them will live short impoverished lives.

    If the media really wanted to reduce the stigma there are plenty of bruised opportunities walking the streets right now.

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    1. Thank you for reading and thank you for your comment, I couldn’t agree with you more.
      It’s good to hear that I’m not the only one who thought that way and that the abuse that has been thrown my way for having an opinion was ridiculous to say the least. Have a wonderful weekend 🙂

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      1. I think that one can support the right to do as one pleases with one’s body while also noting the crassness of the media hypocrisy in the Jenner case. It seems as if people are often blind to life’s grey areas.

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      2. The lack of common sense almost seems like a cultural imperative. And I honestly don’t know how people can apply “norms” to a species that can alter it’s environment and even take portions of it into space so it can study the solar system.

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