Dear stalker, give it up already!

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I occasionally write a few opinion pieces on this blog. Why not, it’s my blog and I can write whatever I want about whatever subjects. If you don’t approve of what I write, let me know by all means: as long as you’re capable of having a real discussion and explain intelligently why you don’t agree, we can have a nice and healthy debate – I enjoy that!
If you really can’t stand my opinions and do not think it’s worth talking to me about them, fair enough! Don’t read my posts, unfollow me if you’re a follower, etc…

I wrote about Caitlyn Jenner a while ago and “somebody” took objection to my opinion. That somebody made personal attacks and accused me of various things without ever being able to back up those accusations when asked to do so. After many comments going back and forth (I should have stopped responding quickly when it became clear what type of person I was dealing with, my bad!) that person told me they were never ever going to visit my blog again.

Great! Doing us both a favor, brilliant.
Except that person, who obviously has been anonymous from the very beginning, hiding under various names such as “Transjenner”, “Equality Rainbows” “Southwest”, etc… has been avidly following my blog and popping up regularly to comment (making personal attacks is more accurate) on every opinion piece I’ve written ever since. Ignoring her/him hasn’t worked, the comments keep coming – as frequent and unwanted as the rain in the UK.

Well, dear stalker, today I did something I have never done before. I followed the advice of one of my fellow bloggers and edited your latest comment to turn it into a glowing review of myself before releasing it on the blog. I was quite mischievous really, my wicked sense of humor took over I’m afraid!
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I saw no reason to carry on with this endless vicious circle of you making personal attacks regularly while hiding under various anonymous names that lead to blank pages. I know you’ve found me on Twitter since you mentioned it recently and I find this, you, really sad. You have basic information about me while I know absolutely nothing about you, not even your gender…are you a man or a woman? Fuck knows! I know nothing, only that you are always there in the background, waiting for the next occasion to attack me, cowardly, hiding behind a computer screen somewhere.
Obviously you didn’t react well to me editing your comment, I didn’t expect you to:
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Well,  you reacted exactly as I thought you would: ridiculous and childish words, as usual.
Yes, it IS me in the photo, and no, I’m not sleeping with Matt – I’d have a hard time doing that with him being across the pond – lol – not to mention the fact that neither of us are single but, hey, I’m French and a slut, right?
Seriously, get over it!

Do you realize how ironic it is that you should accuse me of having issues when those 4 comments were left under 4 different names? Comments that are as ludicrous as they are puerile?
Have you no life? Obviously not. Somebody recently commented on an older post of mine and I discovered because of this that you had gone through the entire 60+ comments and “unliked” every comment of mine and every comment made by people who agreed with me. I found out purely by chance, but I thought it so terribly sad that you had taken the time to do that. How petty and spiteful. I can only imagine you’ve done this on other posts too, but quite frankly, I couldn’t be bothered to check. I have better things to do with my time, contrary to you.

Please do not attempt to comment on my blog again as I will carry on doing what I started today: edit your comments rather than ignoring them. I figure that’s the only way to stop you in your tracks. If this doesn’t work, then I’ll have no choice but to report you: stalking and harassing people is a crime, only you don’t seem to be aware of it.
I genuinely feel pain at the gaping hole in your life you’re trying to fill, but believe me when I say that stalking me is not the way. Take up a hobby, get some therapy… I don’t know… anything at all. You clearly need help and I want you to get it. I’m not angry with you, I just find you tiresome and sad, I feel sorry for you – please get help, everybody deserves to be happy, even you.

*Additional Note* I have got emails from people who don’t understand why I wrote this post. Not that I feel I have to justify myself (although, obviously I do, otherwise I wouldn’t be writing this, would I?) but the reason I did write this post is because the stalker, not content with just being a stalker, simply went too far yesterday.

Yesterday, the troll did something that needed teaching a lesson: they contacted me pretending to be “just another blogger” asking about a post which had been made private. When I asked which post, they told me, adding: “I agreed with you, I wanted to forward it to a friend”…now there was no need to say they agreed with me if they were just a regular blogger…it was almost as if they were trying to lure me into a false sense of security…so I wondered if they were not the stalker, I’m not stupid and something didn’t add up…you could say I smelt a rat, literally. I clicked on the avatar of this inquiring blogger and it lead me to a blank page…ha! If they thought they were being clever, I was one step ahead. So I made the post public again (no idea why it had gone private in the first place) and told them I had done so. What I guessed would happen, did: the stalker commented really quickly in their usual pathetic manner, under a different name than the “inquiring blogger” of course.
So I had been right…and what the stalker did was very sneaky, incredibly devious in my book. It was a very low thing to do and this was one step further than just leaving spiteful comments all over my blog. I thought that deserved a lesson, I’m not sorry I did it – I hate cowards and I hate people who lie and pretend to be someone else for the sole purpose of then abusing you under a different name…I also hate people who think I’m stupid and think I would fall for their pathetic little tricks. I’m really not sorry I did it, it needed to be done. I do agree that ignoring trolls is usually the right thing to do, and I would report someone who made actual threats but, believe it or not I do feel sorry for this particular person, so I thought a sharp shock such as this post would be the way to end this, without the need to do anything more serious. It seems to have done the trick as I haven’t heard from them since.

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51 thoughts on “Dear stalker, give it up already!

  1. Good for you. 🙂 Editing the comments this person makes makes their stalking impotent. However, like you mentioned, if it continues, report it. Though this criminal, because that what stalking is, a crime, may use different names, it’s more than likely he or she is just using one or two computers to write to you. Their IP address will easily be found by the authorities, as will they. Stalkers are vermin of the lowest kind. Hopefully this rat will run back into the garbage it reared its ugly head from and trouble you no more.

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  2. j’en ai eu @ mon blog, aussi… je ne lui ai jamais consacré la moindre mot, j’ai choisi les options radicales: ignore-spam-delete!!! 😀 autrement, il(elle) se serait senti(e) super-important(e)… ce sont des “mendiants d’attention virtuelle”(je cite une amie-journaliste), comme ils n’en ont pas dans la vie réelle… 😉
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    @”I’m not sleeping with Matt…” – Matt Leblanc from “Friends”?!… 😉 il paraît qu’il aurait eu une love affair avec Jennifer Aniston pendant le tournage des “amis”… 🙂
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    une soirée sereine et amicales pensées, Mel B

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  3. Wow… That’s the trolliest troll on the troll list! I wouldn’t even waste keystrokes on the cretin. Screenshot the comment, put them in a word doc and send to WP. They’ll have all the info they need to get the idiot off of here and you won’t have to look at the comments.
    Some people have their noses so far up their own arse, it’s a wonder they can see to type!

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    1. At first I didn’t find the troll that menacing, pretty inoffensive really if spiteful and stupid…I thought ignoring them would be enough, but the comments keep on coming, obviously they have nothing better to do with their lives…and enough is enough now.
      Thank you for your support Karin 🙂 xx

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      1. It never ceases to amaze me, the lunatic things that people will say and do on the Internet. We are all behind you Nathalie, kick that nasty nano-brain to the curb!

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      2. I know, right? What gets me is that this person keeps attacking me while hiding under names that lead to nothing but a blank page: how cowardly!
        Thank you, I’m hoping this is going to be the end of it now xx

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  4. That’s so scary, I’m so sorry you have to deal with that. Mean and terrible comments always know just how to affect you, it sucks. I’m proud of how you’re handling it though!

    Have you thought about just not approving any of their comments? or maybe making comments banned all together from your posts for a while? I would consider stopping him by not letting comments allowed in general (and I guess everyone) until they get bored and move on. Just a suggestion.
    Good luck, I hope they stop!

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    1. I stopped approving comments, but that didn’t do the trick. I appreciate your suggestion of banning comments altogether but… I keep thinking why should I let this troll dictate what I do…on my OWN blog? You know? Even if it was only for a while I shouldn’t have to resort to such measures. Now they have been told, I will report them if it carries on – they should finally get the message.
      Thank you for your support, it’s much appreciated 🙂

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  5. I am so sorry this is happening to you. I mean, seriously, do people have nothing better to do with their time than post hateful and mean comments on other people’s blogs, etc. I hope the issue gets resolved for you, and quickly.

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    1. Thank you, I appreciate your kind words. They have been warned now that I will report them if it carries on, it should be enough. I feel sorry for whoever it is to be honest, they’re obviously have issues.

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  6. IP addresses are easy to track these days…next time “it” comments (while the comment still pending approval – as this stores the originating IP in limbo) run the program I just sent you. Then draft an email to my friend with the FBI attaching the IP address. From that point (see my email for the rest)….

    If anyone else has stalker problems, I would be happy to assist…Cheers

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    1. I let myself get carried away a little but I got so sick of those mean, spiteful and stupid comments, you know? In the end, I couldn’t help but find it funny to edit their comment in a way that was sure to really p**s them off
      Thanks you, I’m really feeling the love from the WordPress community today 🙂

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  7. This is awful. I hope this inventive and ingenious post along with all the comments from fellow bloggers puts an end to it. But if not you really really should report it to WordPress.

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    1. Yep, that was my first mistake but I didn’t realize it was a troll I was dealing with. You live and learn. Thank you for taking the time to visit, I just read the most amazing post on your site. Without saying too much on here, it helped and I saved it so I can keep reading it…so it can carry on helping 😉

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  8. Wow. People should remember the old adage “If you haven’t got anything nice to say then don’t say it at all!” This is a very well written post and it seems that you’re dealing with the issue to the best of your ability, I’m glad that you’ve made it public, it will help others who experience it too. In the meantime, the rest of us do think that you’re as amazing as that comment you edited! 😉

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    1. Yes, and there are others who think like you. But you see, yesterday the troll did something that needed teaching a lesson: they contacted me pretending to be “just another blogger” asking about a post which had been made private. When I asked which post, they told me which, adding: “I agreed with you, I wanted to forward it to a friend”…now there was no need to say they agreed with me if they were just a regular blogger…it was almost as if they were trying to lure me into a false sense of security…so I wondered if they were not the stalker, I’m not stupid and something didn’t add up. I clicked on the avatar of this inquiring blogger and it lead me to a blank page…ha! If they thought they were being clever, I was one step ahead. So I made the post public again (no idea why it had gone private in the first place) and told them I had done so. What I guessed would happen did: the stalker commented really quickly in their usual pathetic manner.
      So I had been right…and what the stalker did was very sneaky, incredibly devious in my book. I thought that deserved a lesson, I’m not sorry I did it – I hate cowards and I hate people who lie and pretend to be someone else for the sole purpose of then abusing you under a different name…I also hate people who think I’m stupid and think I would fall for their pathetic little tricks. I’m really not sorry I did it, it needed to be done.

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    1. Thank you Pepperanne, I literally just edited this post because I got emails from people who didn’t understand why I had given any time or attention to the stalker… so I added a note at the end to explain that it was the stalker being devious yesterday that made my mind up for me. You read the unedited version, not that you should go and read it again! Lol
      I appreciate your comment, whoever this person is, I feel sorry for them, they haven’t made any threats so don’t need to be reported, they have just been a nuisance, something is obviously lacking in their lives.
      Thank you for your kind words.
      Take care – Nathalie

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  9. May I refer you to the UK laws for stalking and harassment, unless there are actual threats of violence the cps would laugh this out of court, not that it would even get that far in the first place. When you signed up and created a blog there would have been a tiny section in the t&c’s about what to expect. Believe me, people get FAR worse “abuse” on here (if you can really call yours that), there are *actual* celebrities who get death threats on a daily basis and don’t moan about it as much as you do. After scrolling through your blog, the “abuse” you have received is nothing, gosh even I have received more concerning comments than someone being pro #TeamCaitlyn or #TeamKimK. I think you’re making a really big deal out of nothing. Just ignore it, like you said it’s a nuisance that’s all. Instead of always receiving compliments isn’t it nice when people challenge you, it makes your blog exciting. People are entitled to their opinions, if you don’t like hearing it, you shouldn’t have a blog. Simple. Ps. It’s spelt FavoUr and RealiSe.

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    1. I am only replying to this, and only the once, because you *might* just be genuine, although I doubt it.
      It *is* nice when people challenge me, I’ve always made it clear I don’t have a problem with that. What I do have a problem with, is people making personal attacks, people unable to have an actual discussion, people accusing you of stuff without being able to back it up, etc…
      People *are* entitled to their opinions as long as they express them INTELLIGENTLY, and without attacking others. I am also entitled to an opinion and shouldn’t get harassed because of what I think.
      You may have scrolled through my blog but you don’t know about the crass and pathetic comments that I haven’t approved, do you? Or maybe you do…right?
      PS: it’s spelt however I want to spell it since it’s *my* blog and *my* words.

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      1. That comment was not legit, my friend. It’s most likely the idjit stalker again. The pathetic sadness of such a person is amazing. What a small, miserable person he or she is. It is stalking when one continues to hide their identity behind a plethora of poorly conceived pseudonyms because they’re too filled with cowardice to identify themselves whilst insulting you. Getting an IP address and a location on such a coward is not difficult to do, You could easily do it yourself. WP will definitely put the kibosh on their pathetic trolling should you chose to pursue that route. It’s far more difficult to continually change computers to carry out their stalking than it is to created sophomoric avatar names. Taking guesses at what the law might do in Britain with such stalking trolls can easily be put to the test by notifying the authorities of the situation. A threat need only be implied to be considered real. Sending repeatedly insulting comments under various fake names from one or two IP addresses is, by definition, threatening. You’ve got a real, legit whack-job here, my friend. Crazy it’s happened to you as you’re one of the nicest, most open, sincere people I’ve met while blogging.
        Well, like Forrest Gump says: “Idjits are as idjits do.” And you’ve got a legit idjit buggin’ ya here. 😀

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      2. No, that comment was not legit, I didn’t think it was, but just on the 1% chance it was a genuine blogger, I approved it and replied. There’s a plethora of other comments currently pending, all under different names, all pretending to be from different people who apparently “agree” with the stalker and have apparently now come out in support of said stalker. All those comments speak with one voice of course, they are personal attacks and the usual stuff. All those different people seem to have an amazing knowledge of my blog even though I have never heard of them. Not content with that, the stalker also left a couple of comments that he/she is happy to admit come from them. How can somebody be that mentally unbalanced that they take the time to do something like this?!
        How can this person not realise that I *know* it’s them?!
        I am not approving any of those comments and not responding, I am going to notify WordPress about it.
        I have given this person enough chances, they need help, and soon, like, yesterday.
        Thank you for your support my friend, I do not understand either why this person has chosen to target me.
        I greatly appreciate your advice though, and the fact you’re behind me on this.
        Thank you, thank you, thank you! 😀

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      3. I write the supportive comments because I believe what I’m saying, but also, I know this mentally ill person will read them, too, and maybe seek the medical attention they so desperately need. Good idea to let WP know. They’re very good at stopping such stuff. Hopefully this very ill person gets the help they need. He or she is very sad, indeed.

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