Satan came in, all breathy and positively burning with excitement. A lesser devil was there, feeling bored and rather useless.
“I’ve managed to snare another one!” Satan exclaimed.
The lesser devil couldn’t hide his wonder: “how do you do it, sir? If I may ask? I’ve been on the lookout for so long and I’ve had no luck. And it’s not for lack of trying!”
Satan was in a benevolent mood, as usually happened when he’d just got his way.
“I’ll tell you what boy, I’ll give you a couple of tips. Now listen, and listen good, because I won’t repeat myself.”
The lesser devil eagerly pulled up a chair – this was unexpected, but oh, so welcome.
“I’m listening sir, do tell me!”
“First of all, you have to choose them young and not very bright if you want to be able to fool them, and we need that! Insecure people and attention-seekers are also good, if you can get it. Right? It’s common sense. If they’re intelligent and educated, you’ll have control at first, but it won’t last for very long and that’s not what we aim for. Listen mate, we’re not that deep and we’re not that clever ourselves, so we’ve got to go for lower than us, it’s the only way for success. Youth is important because they haven’t lived yet, they don’t know anything, they haven’t had time to find out there are people like us out there!
We want to control them, take over their lives, manipulate them without them ever realising they’re being manipulated. Yeah? I’ll tell you how you can gauge their levels of naivety and stupidity: if they publicly – and by publicly, I mean the world, we’re talking Twitter for example – declare they’re crazy about you, when they’ve known you for all of 5 minutes, then you know they’re ripe, ready for the taking, they’ll be putty in your hands..”
Lesser devil couldn’t help but interrupt: “surely, sir, nobody would be so foolish as to publicly do that, after 5 minutes! What is the purpose of it? It wouldn’t reflect well on their character.”
“No, it it wouldn’t!” roared the devil, laughing like a loon, “it doesn’t, but that’s the beauty of it, it shows they’re stupid and insecure enough to fall for all your lies, and they’ll be lots of them! It means they’re positively asking to be taken advantage of! They’ll let you break hundreds of promises, be selfish and false and they’ll be grateful for any crumbs you give them! Using and abusing should be your motto from now on.”
But, sir, said the lesser devil timidly: “this isn’t much of a challenge, then, is it?”
“Challenge, schmallenge” replied Satan. “Challenge is hard, challenge is difficult, we don’t do challenge round here boy! What we want is willing slaves, people who’ll do our bidding, easy prey is where it’s at. No point wasting months or years on anybody for the sake of challenge, oh sure they taste better but it’s too short, they realise what we’re about and we lose them after we’ve spent all that time chasing. And don’t get me started on the headaches they give you when their eyes open to what we are. We need to be loved, adored and never questioned, boy! Our self-worth depends on it. We avoid confrontation like the plague, we want to always get our way, we want an easy life more than a real one. Listen to me, I’ve been doing this a long time: young and stupid…understood?” added satan, with a slight air of menace.
“Yes, sir, young and stupid, thank you for all your help, I’m very grateful.”
“Ha! Come on boy, get out there and do what you have to do. And don’t let me catch you trying it on with anyone but a simple brain.”
The lesser devil went out, looking a little unsure. He was thinking that maybe he didn’t have the right temperament to be, even a non-ambitious, demon.
Satan smiled indulgently, he was still on a high from his latest catch, it wouldn’t last but it was intense enough for now. The illusion was what mattered.
“The poor sod, it’s not rocket science.” he muttered.
Then he picked up his phone and started texting his latest prey who eagerly responded within seconds. They would do, for now. There were so many more out there. Life was grand. For now.
*It may or may not be obvious that the subject of Narcissism is more than alluded to in this little story. This is by no means a comprehensive account of what narcissists can be like, this story referred to “new supply” – the fact that narcissists tend to “trade down” rather than “up” has been extensively written about. It certainly has been the case in my experience: new supply gets younger every time, and seems to have less and less in the way of brains, definitely going down in terms of looks every time as well (only mentioning it because it’s shallow, and the narcissist is shallow) I guess it’s the narcissist’s way of making sure the new supply will be controllable as long as possible, that he will be able to fool them far more easily and for longer.
If the narcissist’s discarded supply was a smart person and the devaluation & discard phase went on for too long (in the narcissist’s eyes), it makes sense to “trade down” when it comes to his new supply. The smart person saw too much, got to know the narcissist inside out, that’s something he, with his constant need for adoration, cannot allow. So, smart supply (which narcissists usually favour above all else) must disappear and new supply must be found among the “not so bright” so they don’t manage to get close to the truth (although they will, eventually) In any case, it is very hard to see the new supply going through the “love bombing” phase, knowing they will end up broken to pieces just like everyone before them.
I am seeing it now, the new supply has only just met the narcissist and already they are completely absorbed into the fold: hours on the phone, publicly declaring their love (how very shallow, needy and desperate behaviour, very low-rent dear!), going to great lengths to arrange weekends together when they’ve known each other a few days only (a few days! alarms bells are ringing, deafening), thinking they have found their soulmate – everything completely over the top and going way too fast – textbook case “love bombing” (what a cliche you are, T) I mean, we’re talking “psycho” scary, and “psycho” fast here, this is not love as poor new supply probably thinks it is because they’re, er…not all that bright…(and an actual baby, how far one has fallen from his trophy days, down to the dregs now) it’s abnormal on a grand scale and the red flags signalling a psychological disorder (it is, NPD – a narcissist cannot feel love or other emotions, only imitate them, apart from rage & lust, that is) I actually feel sorry for the new supply, no matter how long it takes, they will end up broken. Narcissists as demons, devils, whatever you want to call them…Vampires? If you like. Very dangerous people for sure. I’m just ever so relieved this never-ending saga is finally over for me.
I should mention, in passing, and for future reference that narcissists are always very active on social media (even if they don’t know how to use it properly), they get low-grade secondary supply there with all their (fooled and foolish) friends unconditionally pouring love over their walls and statuses. They are very careful to build the image they want to project; for example: intelligence… with a bunch of ludicrous pseudo-deep quotes that don’t mean a thing to anyone in possession of at least half a brain, and btw, often associated with glaring grammatical or spelling mistakes, it’s: “I’ve been blown away by nature” dear, not “blow” & if “life surprises you”, then of course it’s with “the unexpected”, otherwise it wouldn’t be a surprise, would it? Like, duh! But you keep making those mistakes with your shitty quotes and you don’t even know you appear ridiculous because you’re trying so hard. Too hard. Am I being bitchy? Petty? Yes, but I think I’m entitled after the cruelty you’ve shown those past few weeks, not to mention the years. I could publicly laugh at your stupid quotes for the next 100 years and not even come close to being as mean as you’ve been to me. (btw you might want to ask new supply to cool it on Social Media too, they come across as desperate and moronic.) Narcissists also use social media to insult and undermine the devalued supply, often writing cruel tweets or Facebook statuses to get a reaction, or at the same time as stonewalling to make more of an impact, they use social media to gloat about the new supply just so the person who has been discarded wants to slash their wrists a little more. They use social media a lot. Why? Because it’s not real life, it’s fake and they can only do fake, not real, because they are incapable of communicating like fully functioning human beings. They use it like irresponsible, nasty kids because they are incapable of being adults and it gives them endless possibilities to be mean without getting their hands (too) dirty. Also, they use it simply because they are narcissists, and they want the world to care about what they have to say, they desperately need va-li-da-tion.
Thank you, T. You taught me some valuable lessons and truths:
I should not automatically trust a friend just because they’ve been a friend for years.
I now know that my instinct is usually pretty spot on but, sometimes, it fails me. I now know that you can give someone everything, and not only will they give you nothing back, they will also turn on you if you need them, they will twist the knife in and walk away as if being ungrateful, cold, selfish, nasty and cruel was normal. Even better, they will accuse you of everything they‘ve done to you, they will play the victim when they are in fact the abuser, they will say they hate drama while creating it at every step, they will make you doubt yourself by constantly re-writing history, lying and speaking half-truths. They will punish you endlessly by stonewalling and insulting, throwing tantrums like toddlers and go into evil rages, never ever taking the blame or accepting responsibility for anything, never saying sorry either (at least never sincerely) the art of double standards was invented by narcissists and for them, they will make you question your own sanity by constantly telling you that you “read too much into things, you’re too sensitive/crazy, you overthink everything”, telling all their friends their own twisted version of the truth (never ever the actual truth) so said friends all think you’re crazy and ready for the loony-bin, narcissists are constant liars and assume everyone else is too, they claim to have high morals when in actual fact they have none – all narcissists cheat, it might not necessarily be in the physical sense, but they will cheat every other way; also: and this is incredibly important, narcissists will never ever give you closure, because giving it to you would make it so much easier to get over them and they do not want that, they want to feel like they own you to the end… etc…
Good luck with the rest of your life T, you’re going to need it, life becomes particularly tough for the narcissist as he ages, that gaping hole inside of you is going to be harder and harder to deal with. Even surrounding yourself with endless young & brainless new supply won’t help you. None of this is my problem anymore, thank fuck. In any case, don’t ever, ever come anywhere near me ever again. Ever. That’s twice now, twice, that I’ve been discarded in the most callous manner for new supply, discarded as if we hadn’t been friends for years, discarded as if I hadn’t done everything for you over the years, discarded for people you barely know, people with no brains – I forgave you once (fool that I am) but I will never forgive this second time round – just you keep on getting your priorities totally wrong, while I finally get mine right. Keep your stupid puppy away from me (and my town) too, we wouldn’t want an unfortunate meeting now, would we? As far as I’m concerned, as soon as I click publish on this, you cease to exist, and trust me, I mean it this time. I can also assure you that it is very much your loss.